Sometimes we experience a moment of awareness that has us stop and evaluate the way things are going. Whether it’s a thought, an emotion, or the realization that you possess a spirit that won’t settle, at some point, we experience the need to stop and evaluate.
When you’re unhappy, your first instinct might be to think that the people around you are the source of your problems.
And therefore, they need to change in order for you to feel better about yourself. This is a cognitive distortion called “The Fallacy of Change,” and believes that everyone needs to change except us to remain happy. And can cause problems in relationships and friendships when we feel like someone is trying to force us to change.
Emotional vampires feed on your willingness to listen and care for them. They drain you of your emotional and psychological energy, leaving you exhausted, overwhelmed, and well… drained. Whether or not they feed on others for their own emotional energy to make them feel better or add to their long list of woes depends on the vampire.
Do you ever feel like the universe is punishing you? That no matter how much you sacrifice, that outcome you desire still won’t come? Do you find yourself expecting Karma or some other divine force to repay you for your good deeds and immediately?
You’re not alone. In fact, a lot of people think that way. But it turns out that this thinking pattern is called “Heaven’s Reward Fallacy,” which negatively impacts your life in many ways.
In a nutshell, when we think that everything in our life is due to factors inside or outside of our control, we experience a lot of negative emotions. When we believe that something or someone has power over us and our lives, or we believe we hold that type of power over others, it’s called a Control Fallacy.
A human mind is a powerful tool, but it can also be a dangerous weapon if we don’t understand how our thoughts work. Our minds are constantly thinking and trying to make sense of the world around us. Unfortunately, this leads to many distortions in our thinking that affect how we feel and react to situations. I’ve put together a blog post listing the most common cognitive distortions to help get you started so you know what to look for and address them.
Loving yourself is hard, but it’s something that everyone wants to do. We all know that loving ourselves is important, but how can we actually go about doing this? If you’re like most people, then you’ve probably struggled with self-love for a long time and have tried dozens of different ways to make yourself feel better. The good news is that you can do some simple things every day to help build your sense of self-worth. This post provides 27 tips on how to love yourself written by a therapist who has helped many clients learn how to love themselves more deeply over the years.
We all have to deal with things that are not ideal, and it’s easy to get discouraged when facing a difficult situation. It can be tempting to give up or let your emotions take over. So what do you do about them? Do you just wait for them to go away on their own, or is there some way to deal with them so they don’t take over your life?
Healthy self-esteem gives you the freedom to be YOU and to enjoy your life. But here’s the thing. You and only you can change your self-esteem and confidence. Because that power only lies with you, and no one can do it for you. So, if you’re looking to own your power and do for you what only you can do, then keep reading on.